I was reading a friend's blog, and the topic she touched on was shotgun marriage. Hey no, I am not involve in one, but I thought it would be a nice topic to talk about.

Recently my xiao di msn and asked me what advice would I give to a girl who is pregnant before marriage. This girl is about 19 or 20 (can't remember), not schooling and the boyfriend is willing to take the responsibility. Well, in short (cause I can't remember the details), it seems like the best solution is marriage.


I did suggest giving birth to the child and giving the baby up for adoption after birth. The last option I gave, which I did not recommend, was abortion.

Then xiao di ask me what I would do if I was the one involved. Right now, my answer is very clear - abortion. It is an irony, I don't support abortion, but yet it will be my first option.


I always believed that children are the most innocent party in this world. It is the adults that brought them to life, be it planned, or a mistake. So why abortion? Simple, I am still schooling, I have one more year to graduation. If I am pregnant, means I have to stop all lab work, which is essential for my graduation. I am an ambitious person. I will not let a kid stop me from achieving my success. Sounds cruel, but that is just the fact of life.

Well, if you ask me this question a few years down the road, at least after I have graduate, my answer will be different. If the man does not want the kid, I will give birth and give up for adoption. If the man wants the kid and me, we will get married.

I tell myself, if I want to play, I play safe. I will never allow myself to get pregnant until I wish to (which is when I am 30 years old). Ladies, learn to protect yourself, no matter what. Don't let your negligence hurt an innocent life.